and i apologize for using sarcasm. this is a topic that's very personal to me (which is why i'm posting anon; i'm not comfortable posting using my lj), and a lot of this post made me angry. it was a kneejerk reaction to use sarcasm. honestly, if this was the first time frank said something like this, i wouldn't have a problem. but it's become a pattern for him, and i find that very problematic.